The dating crash course for men
Borderlines thrive on crisis, drama and chaos, which contribute to their sense of aliveness--it's the won't seek therapeutic help unless/until he's in crisis.The catalyst might be due to severe financial or health setbacks, but it's more typically connected to trying to navigate/surmount painful relationship dynamics with a lover who has BPD features that surpass his own.These were the right men at the right time, and we enjoyed mutual admiration and respect.Whenever I met someone who felt a bit 'off' to me, I declined a second date.
Browse the various sub-sections in this piece while you're visiting--they describe the intricate aspects of personality disordered men and their behaviors.
He left home to get away from There's always a childhood template that sets up our attraction to someone personality disordered.
Perhaps your Borderline has traits similar to Mom or Dad (though this attraction is primarily due to unresolved attachment issues with mother), and you're , while constantly undermining his personal strivings and attachment endeavors.
Some of these males present as little boys, ambivalently in need of rescuing or care.
Their vulnerability comes across in a way that has you seeing them as open and genuine--but watch out!